well aged love

I have been noticing how a common motif seems to pop up everywhere, like people are living long enough to realize that love has two-sides. When we were young love was very self-centered. Now, gradually, oh! Maybe it has never changed, I am simply becoming aware of something always known by enlightened others  but, for whatever reason, it seems like a relegation that love MUST go both ways. In order to be IN  love it is not enough to adore something, but to be adorable as well.